This on is a toughy for me, I can think of ways I was wronged by people throughout my life, but most of those I have already forgiven and moved on.
However, when it comes to my husband's family (and only one branch in particular), I find that I am still holding a grudge.
We got married shortly after his previous marriage ended, well, shortly after the divorce finalized, the marriage was over and paperwork in the works for a year prior. Some members of his family didn't feel this was acceptable and therefore felt it was their place to "shun" me, or at the very least, turn a cold and unfriendly shoulder my direction. Needless to say, I have not felt welcome in this branch of the family. I resent the way they treat me, I fell it is unwarranted and unfair.
...........and so I need to forgive.
I need to forgive them for their treatment of me, for all I know they may be completely unaware of how their behavior comes across. No matter what their motive, holding a grudge only hurts me in the end, so I will forgive and move on.
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I'm gonna go out on a limb here and be really honest (that's the whole point of this, right?), and hope it doesn't get me into trouble. :)
I need to forgive my mother-in-law. Not for anything she did to me. But for hurting people I love, and acting like it's no big deal. It's not so much that I can't forgive her for leaving. It's not even me she left, but when people I love are hurting, I hurt too. It's the aftermath that I can't get past. The attitude of, "What's the big deal? I thought you'd be happy for me!" I don't know how to forgive someone who can't and/or won't recognize and admit that their actions have hurt others. How do you forgive someone who doesn't think they need forgiving?
I completely understand where you are coming from on this one April. The stubbornness and lack of understanding as to what was done and how poorly it was handled has left behind a fairly substantial path of destruction. Even a glimmer of recognition for her part in the damages would make it easier for a lot people to forgive the actions. I pray that she comes to this understanding before the damage is irreversible. I also pray for peace for you and honey (and the rest of the fam)
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